Have you ever been in a car that got stuck in a pile of snow or in puddle of mud? You try to get the car to move forward by pressing on the gas pedal over and over, but the more you try, the vehicle just keeps spinning its wheels in the same exact position as it was before. In other words, you are going nowhere despite your many attempts to move forward and be on your way. It is the same thing when you are going through a divorce. The number one problem in a divorce is both sides are jamming up the process because no one is willing to meet halfway to work everything out. Remember, you are not going to get everything you want, and neither is the other side. But, I cannot stress enough, if you make a list of everything that is acceptable you may be able to avoid a lengthy and costly procedure. As parents we teach our children to compromise to avoid conflict and temper tantrums. It is the same thing here. You get half of your way and the other person gets half of their way, everyone wins! Sabrina Shaheen Cronin is a legal expert in this area and stresses to her clients the importance of negotiating so you can cross the finish line quickly.